Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Sex: What's Love Got to Do With it?

As confessed in the The Salon article, Did Porn Warp Me Forever?, Isaac Abel's access to and relationship with porn is soooo far removed from coming across (or sneaking into) your daddy's (brothers? uncles?-- SOME family member's) stashed 'Hustler' or Penthouse Forum magazines or Betamax videos.  His is the world our kids grew (are growing) up in; desensitized.

Sex, demystified.  Decommodified?

"Even now, my “fantasies” are essentially rooted in the fantasies of my 14-year-old self. Age discrepancies in sex? Rape or S&M? These are fantasies of power and domination. This is not a particularly unusual (or necessarily bad) sexual preference, but it’s a nearly predetermined result for an immature adolescent being given a vast selection of pornography with no guidance."

Note: Fantasies of power and domination are okay, only as long as they're okay for the dominated. 

I wonder what it's like for young women today, when hooking up has replaced courting and dating?  How do they look for love,  hope to find it, let alone presume, (or pretend ) they have, if withholding or granting sexual favors can no longer be used as leverage?  What's the new currency?

I am writing tongue in cheek, of course. 

(is that what that is?)

"When asked about actual sexual partners, rather than just theoretical desires, the participants who were not attached to the fake lie detector displayed typical gender differences. Men reported having had more sexual partners than women. But when participants believed that lies about their sexual history would be revealed by the fake lie detector, gender differences in reported sexual partners vanished. In fact, women reported slightly more sexual partners (a mean of 4.4) than did men (a mean of 4.0)."

Sex and love seem all in the air of the web these days, as these recent articles portray; guess it's the lead up to Valentines Day.  If the promise of care and comfort don't impel one down the aisle, I bet you institutionalized singlism will--
Hypothetical extrapolations over time:
Our single woman earning $80,000 per year paid $645,000 in income taxes. Our married woman earning $80,000 paid $490,000 in income taxes—a difference of $155,000.

Inbox me your proposals.


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